11:11 Defeat, the post you’ll never read

“You don’t have to fear defeat if you believe it may reveal powers that you didn’t know you possessed.” – A random on Google

It happened at 11:11, the moment where all my hard work faded…

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Baby’s R us… Or are they ?

“You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance.” — Franklin P. Jones

Babies are cute… for a hot minute, yes. A little one in the family just turned one today and one thing that I have noticed is that babies are full time jobs. I saw a quick quote earlier which started with ” Making the decision to have a baby…” and I wanted to analyze it with you guys quickly… For most people that I know babies weren’t a decision, they were a result of a damn good time. Which in my opinion is what it should be – responsible, smart, financially ready individuals having a sloppy floppy and BOOM – babyyyy

Societal Pressure – Marry or not Marry ?

“You agreed to spend the rest of your life with someone in front of friends and family and it was a complete lie. How could I ever trust you !!??” – Guy in the show

I personally find dating weird sometimes. Every one seems to have a different definition of being with someone. Each have their own rules as long as at the end you and your partner are on the same page.

I’ve also noticed that it can be particularly tough for immigrant woman to date and find “real love” – whatever that is! – due to a few things mentioned in my Who am I ? – Part 1 post.

Last week, I watched “Dating Around” on Netflix – I don’t even know how/why I ended up watching it. I did not expect to be writing on this topic but Episode 2 of season 1 moved me.

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Happy New Year from PV!!

“In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” – Deepak Chopra

Well well well… I stopped counting my days in Mexico but! There couldn’t be a better way to start the new year than a trip down south. Especially after dumping/being dumped (article upcoming) by a man who lied to me and thought he could waste my time – Do I seem like I don’t know what I want? These are the rules… take it or leave it, she’s not changing.

As the plane reached the sky I started realizing that there was more to life than my life issues.

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Self control – There is such a thing!

“As a woman you are better off in life earning your own money. You couldn’t prevent your husband from leaving you or taking another wife, but you could have some of your dignity if you didn’t have to beg him for financial support.”

Ayaan Hirsi Ali

This weekend, I’m visiting my family, it’s a birthday weekend here!!! Currently, 3:50 AM and I’ve woken up brutally from a nightmare that I’d frankly like to forget – Hence why it won’t be discussed here. I have also realized that my mom snores all night and since we share a bed, I won’t be falling asleep anytime soon…

Yesterday, we (siblings & I) went to the shopping mall, although there is money in my bank account and several things that I need (okay… okay… maybe I just want them!), I didn’t buy a thing !!!

It’s a weird thing I found, once your goals are starting to define themselves, it becomes easier to say no to rushed expenses. The “do I want it or do I need it ” never made more sense.

The current financial goal for my upcoming paycheques: determine where my money is going.

What’s yours?

Josie Escapes…

Ugh! That Awkward season again

“The fear of failure, but no urge to be productive. Wanting friends, but hate socializing. Wanting to be alone, but not wanting to be lonely.”

I’m getting a pedicure today, sitting in the nail salon while someone is carefully taking care of my feet, I can’t stop thinking (Insert a French curse here). I have been going to the same Nail Salon for about 5-6 years – this is probably my longest relationship with anything in my life. I used to come here happy and chat about everything and anything. Now, I found I can’t speak anymore, I have lost the touch… If it isn’t “drywall” I don’t know what to say. Putting aside the fact that I am mentally tired and physically exhausted every time I go there, so all I want is rest, but I’d like for people to talk to me.

The last few weeks have been hard, it’s been a mix of me being too hard on myself and beating myself down for the wrong choices I made! I also have noticed that maybe I am just a summer person, I like biking, I like getting out there but not in the “awkward season” – I know you’re wondering what I mean so hang in there… The “awkward season for me” is the period between the end of the hot days (below 24°C) and January 5th. In that period of time, I basically have nothing to do with my life, I hate going out in the cold – I just lied, I’ll do it if there is booze, but you can’t bike and drive nor go drink by yourself in the forest, unless you are looking to die… and I’m not in that business.

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