“Life is hard you know !” Says RuPaul

“You cannot dream yourself into a character; you must hammer and forge yourself one.” ―Henry David Thoreau

Did you know that May 6th to May 12th is the mental health week here in Canada? In light of this week, I would like to share with you my personal psychology analysis, and I salute you if you’re able to keep up!

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Societal Pressure – Marry or not Marry ?

“You agreed to spend the rest of your life with someone in front of friends and family and it was a complete lie. How could I ever trust you !!??” – Guy in the show

I personally find dating weird sometimes. Every one seems to have a different definition of being with someone. Each have their own rules as long as at the end you and your partner are on the same page.

I’ve also noticed that it can be particularly tough for immigrant woman to date and find “real love” – whatever that is! – due to a few things mentioned in my Who am I ? – Part 1 post.

Last week, I watched “Dating Around” on Netflix – I don’t even know how/why I ended up watching it. I did not expect to be writing on this topic but Episode 2 of season 1 moved me.

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Happy New Year from PV!!

“In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” – Deepak Chopra

Well well well… I stopped counting my days in Mexico but! There couldn’t be a better way to start the new year than a trip down south. Especially after dumping/being dumped (article upcoming) by a man who lied to me and thought he could waste my time – Do I seem like I don’t know what I want? These are the rules… take it or leave it, she’s not changing.

As the plane reached the sky I started realizing that there was more to life than my life issues.

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Self control – There is such a thing!

“As a woman you are better off in life earning your own money. You couldn’t prevent your husband from leaving you or taking another wife, but you could have some of your dignity if you didn’t have to beg him for financial support.”

Ayaan Hirsi Ali

This weekend, I’m visiting my family, it’s a birthday weekend here!!! Currently, 3:50 AM and I’ve woken up brutally from a nightmare that I’d frankly like to forget – Hence why it won’t be discussed here. I have also realized that my mom snores all night and since we share a bed, I won’t be falling asleep anytime soon…

Yesterday, we (siblings & I) went to the shopping mall, although there is money in my bank account and several things that I need (okay… okay… maybe I just want them!), I didn’t buy a thing !!!

It’s a weird thing I found, once your goals are starting to define themselves, it becomes easier to say no to rushed expenses. The “do I want it or do I need it ” never made more sense.

The current financial goal for my upcoming paycheques: determine where my money is going.

What’s yours?

Josie Escapes…

Ugh! That Awkward season again

“The fear of failure, but no urge to be productive. Wanting friends, but hate socializing. Wanting to be alone, but not wanting to be lonely.”

I’m getting a pedicure today, sitting in the nail salon while someone is carefully taking care of my feet, I can’t stop thinking (Insert a French curse here). I have been going to the same Nail Salon for about 5-6 years – this is probably my longest relationship with anything in my life. I used to come here happy and chat about everything and anything. Now, I found I can’t speak anymore, I have lost the touch… If it isn’t “drywall” I don’t know what to say. Putting aside the fact that I am mentally tired and physically exhausted every time I go there, so all I want is rest, but I’d like for people to talk to me.

The last few weeks have been hard, it’s been a mix of me being too hard on myself and beating myself down for the wrong choices I made! I also have noticed that maybe I am just a summer person, I like biking, I like getting out there but not in the “awkward season” – I know you’re wondering what I mean so hang in there… The “awkward season for me” is the period between the end of the hot days (below 24°C) and January 5th. In that period of time, I basically have nothing to do with my life, I hate going out in the cold – I just lied, I’ll do it if there is booze, but you can’t bike and drive nor go drink by yourself in the forest, unless you are looking to die… and I’m not in that business.

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What is it really ?

“A budget tells us what we can’t afford but it doesn’t keep us from buying it”

William Feather

Lately, I have been working a lot. Yet, I am still very broke.

 Not sure If I am the only one experiencing this or If I am doing something wrong? Have you ever been in a position where you feel like having one stream of income is not enough?

At a friends birthday 2 weeks ago, we were discussing how much I do make money for my age but I still don’t have money to spend on general family/friends social affairs. The conversation went somewhat like followed :

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You are now old!

“You are the oldest that you have ever been and the youngest that you will ever be in this present moment.”

How do you spend your time? What do you do to fulfill your dreams?

At brunch this morning, I had an interesting conversation about how a busy individual would always know what they would do when not busy and when actual free time comes, it is wasted, leaving one wondering if they ever would do anything anymore. We came to the conclusion that it is all about planning. I say: “If you plan your free time the way you plan your life, you might actually accomplish way more in life…”

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