Baby’s R us… Or are they ?

“You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance.” — Franklin P. Jones

Babies are cute… for a hot minute, yes. A little one in the family just turned one today and one thing that I have noticed is that babies are full time jobs. I saw a quick quote earlier which started with ” Making the decision to have a baby…” and I wanted to analyze it with you guys quickly… For most people that I know babies weren’t a decision, they were a result of a damn good time. Which in my opinion is what it should be – responsible, smart, financially ready individuals having a sloppy floppy and BOOM – babyyyy

Societal Pressure – Marry or not Marry ?

“You agreed to spend the rest of your life with someone in front of friends and family and it was a complete lie. How could I ever trust you !!??” – Guy in the show

I personally find dating weird sometimes. Every one seems to have a different definition of being with someone. Each have their own rules as long as at the end you and your partner are on the same page.

I’ve also noticed that it can be particularly tough for immigrant woman to date and find “real love” – whatever that is! – due to a few things mentioned in my Who am I ? – Part 1 post.

Last week, I watched “Dating Around” on Netflix – I don’t even know how/why I ended up watching it. I did not expect to be writing on this topic but Episode 2 of season 1 moved me.

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I would never – My IUD experience P.II

“You are putting an object in your body… Just the idea scares me – I would never” – Anonymous friend

Deciding to go with a long term medical procedure as the IUD  is not for everyone. I chickened out several times before thinking like Nike and “just did it”.

Till this day, although I have my full reasoning in Part 1 of this series, I am not sure how I got past my fear of the gynecologist, pain, etc. and did it.

I went to my consultation alone, as the boyfriend I had at the time did not care much about me to come for support – I didn’t ask/he should have offered – okay maybe I’m just being petty ahora. I remember walking in telling myself: “This is just a consultation, you go in ask questions, get out no commitment”.  As soon as I walked into the room and sat down with the nurse I told her: “let’s not waste our time, I’ve done my research, I want the copper IUD.” – Talking about assertion! Usually, they spend a half hour talking to you about different birth control methods, etc. followed by the sentence: “well, I’ll let you think about it”. Which ends up in an unnecessary additional visit to the clinic – No thanks, gas and time are no free amenities.

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How, why an IUD? – My IUD experience P.I

“Abortion is not a form of birth control and parenting is no game”

I heard of the IUD for the first time during one of my internships. This amazing young lady shared with me her experience with the hormonal IUD, the installation, insurances and the life after, in one word: amazing. I was intrigued.

Weirdly enough, since I started this blog, this is the one topic that I thought I would never talk about. In my culture, birth control is frown upon – it’s the devil! A woman who uses birth control is automatically categorized as promiscuous. Although I’ve had my share of sin – just like everyone…C’mon don’t be reading this blog all Mother Teresa’d! – I don’t consider myself promiscuous but I am a cautionary pragmatic. In a nutshell, I’d rather prevent than heal when it comes to a possible life-altering situation that I have control over.

So at one point last year, I got into a long term relationship – thought it would be anyways – and decided to get in touch with my feminine side – really not in the way one would expect… I got a copper IUD!

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